If you allow me to rant and rave for a bit....

...you may find out that what I have to say ain't sh*t.
But if you eff up and stick around for awhile
you'll get hooked and realize that you like my style."

Being in love isn't easy. Being out of love sucks even worse. I am waiting around anxiously for someone to pen "The Idiot's Guide to Understanding Women." Whether the author is a male or female makes no difference to me. I would lean towards the male author though, if not for the fact that I feel the female wouldn't totally betray her girls like that. Besides, I really think women like not being understood. It's all part of the game with them. I just wanna be able to understand that "if I do this, then this will happen." I have some of it down, and if you are reading this and you are actually thinking about stepping up and blessing the world with your offering, then I will send you some of my inputs.
I do know that I like having female friends around. Well, not when I am in a bind and about to fight at the club. I mean, I don't want them to go run and get help while I am getting stomped by dudes wif size 14 timbs and everything, but I do like having them around just so I can observe them. You know, sorta like a control group in an experiment. Don't get me wrong, they are friends in every sense of the word. Right now it's Princess and it was Ghetto before her. Both are my aces. Ghetto, I woulda took into a fight with me, while Princess is more like, well...a princess and she might throw something at my assailant but I don't think she will jump on the nikka's back or anything. She is so much like me that it's scary. I can't put anything past her and that's kinda cool because she keeps me on my toes. Pretty intelligent, yet laid the hell back. Yeah, that's me. You'd figure we'd argue more often but that isn't the case. As a matter of fact, she is the only one who just about physically placed one of her friends in my bed!!!! None of the others have done that!!!! They treated me like a brother and refused to let me get with their friends. But you, Princess, you get mad points for that. Regardless of the mileage on that chick, that was love and I gots you. LMMFAO....whew.

*chuckin' da deuce at the princess*

Anyway, I like observing them in everyday life. The only problem with that is when they get pissed off you have to deal with the attitudes and everything just like you were in a relationship with them. You gotta do all the ass kissing to make up and stuff and that would be the only downfall. For instance, Ghetto and I have been friends since '99. She woulda done anything for me and ditto for her. We argued and everything. I don't know how it usually came about but it was probably all her fault. I put up with it and I would be the first one to call and reach out. She was always waiting on me to do that. I was probably one of two dudes that could really get through her tough skin.

Well, when I had gotten into a relationship with a woman I ended being with for 3 yrs, she was still a big part of my life. I mean, it was hard dealing with two women, only one of which I was intimate with, when they both had attitudes towards me. The one always used to wonder why I let Ghetto bother me and why when her and I were at odds, that I would be real pissed off about it. I guess she figured that she should be the only female in my life that could piss me off that way and really get to me. She assumed that we were an item at one time and probably thought that I still liked her or something. That wasn't the case. I mean Ghetto was attractive, but nothing happened between us. Anyway, those three years were rough for me...and disappointing.
Girl friend + Home girl did not = Menage a trois

I'm trippin'....lightweight trippin, anyway. Moving on, just from those three women I just mentioned, I have learned a lot. All have made my life more interesting, while elevating my stress level during the whole process. I wouldn't trade it, but none of them chicks came with manuals!!!!!!
Someone needs to get hot on this and I mean right now!!!!!! There is a fortune to be made and it's right in front of our faces, day in and day out!!!!

Pilot to bombadier...open bomb bay doors...

Communication.
Now, that's important whether you are in a combat zone or in a committed relationship ( I know, what's the f*ckin' difference between the two?). The thing that I want to bring out is that without communications things can get effed up real quick.
Picture, if you will, a man with a grenade in a combat unit. As he throws it, he has to yell something. Why? So his comrades in arms are aware of the situation and stay out of harm's way.
A lumberjack in the woods after choppin' down a tree. "Timber!!!!" Why?
A golfer, after he tees off and notices the golf ball's flight pattern might be a danger to people yells, "Fore!!"
Those are all warnings, huh? Still a form of communication, but basically simple warnings that let people know what's going on, and allows them to respond accordingly. Now imagine you are in a relationship. You both are hanging in there but you don't know what the hell it really is? Is it exclusive? How much does she really care? Where is this going? Well, maybe I should stick it out until the answer reveals itself? Now these aren't questions that I ask. I, personally, like to get down to the bottom of it if I really am interested. I used to be that way though. I also had a Stretch Armstrong and a GI Joe wif a Kung Fu grip, but I packed all of those, punkishness included, into a box and put them away for good when I got older.

The reason I brought this up is because I have a friend, a pretty good friend for the most part, that is going through this with his girl. He likes her but is afraid to tell her about it because he pretty much holds his feelings in and because he doesn't want to be embarrased. Now, how does this work? You wouldn't want to go to work everyday and not really have a job would you? Yeah, you get paid, but if you didn't officially get hired you would be worried about your status and job security, right? Yeah it would never happen, but think about it. All the benefits, but no security. Now back to my homeboy. How do you get... f*ck...how do you even KEEP, a woman without being able to talk to her?!!?! Shyt, I have been in relationships where I HAD to talk about something every single day. I even had to read books together out loud. Yeah, and this punk can't even reach out an express himself to even get her. After you get her believe me, she will force you to talk to her. If your communication skills are subpar she will help you work on 'em. Either that or she will open her bombay doors and shyt all over you.

My message to you is find answers to the questions that you have. Not from your boys, or your home girls, either. Put down your shield and TALK to the only person who has the answers that you are seeking...the pilot. She obviously has the flight plans. If not, then make your own together...or...not.